In this video, behavioural expert Sonia Friedrich explains why nagging doesn't help and how you can use your listening skills and tone of voice to help support your smoker.
It can be quite startling when you first realise that you are being a nagger! To best support someone who wants to quit smoking, it can help to take a step back and try these approaches:
Don't be a nagger: Nagging may have become so ingrained that you don't realise you are doing it. So start to really listen to the words you use when you're talking with your smoker.
Be a listener: Your smoker needs to know that you're listening to them. It can help if you tell them you understand what they've said and demonstrate this by repeating what they've said back to them.
Show empathy in your tone of voice: It's not just the words you choose, you can also show your support by using an empathetic tone of voice.
Try not to be judgemental; changing behaviour is difficult. You may need to change your own behaviour to show your smoker you are supporting their own change. Your smoker needs to know that you will be with them every step of the way throughout their quitting journey.